Time off – when you hear those words what do you think of ? … Is it the ocean, its waves lapping in and out against the sandy beach in front of you? How do you feel? … Could it be the warmth of the sand beneath you, and the fading sun on your face? A calm washing over you, like the nights ocean breeze, and your thoughts are only of this moment, with no thoughts of anything beyond this place and time.

Does that sound a good? Well for me it does.

But what happens when time off means … She said; “I am leaving you for a few weeks to gather my thoughts about our marriage, and our future?”

No surprise you knew that this time off was coming, that your marriage was, and has been struggling for some time now. So why all the drama?

Now what do you think of, or how do you feel? Did that big ocean wave just come crashing in on you, driving you down and lapping your body across the sand like wood across sand paper? The shock, like a bucket of cold water hits you where you lye on the beach, your muscles stiffen you raise up and gasp for that first breath that was washed away with the cold water.

You thoughts say: “My God, What just happen, … What is going on?” What happened is that she had more mental strength than you. Also that she was willing to leave, what she is after only she knows.

Does that sound like a good time off … Well for that moment … that first moment … No. Then what becomes of the moments after? Can you get that first time off back? Do – you – want that first time off back, if so have you learned anything to make the time off better? If going back in time has taught us anything (on TV) it is that; you – will – not – learn – anything.

So as you see you can’t get time back, and your no longer in possession of your time off , she controls all time off you have missed your way, feelings and time have been wasted.

Time off – when you hear those words what do you think of? How do you feel?